At some point, each one of us became, or will become, aware of our sexual desire. From this point on--for the next many decades--we each have a choice to make: What will you do when your sexual desire demands your attention?
Will you justify why obeying God is outdated, and no longer applies to you? Will you choose immediate gratification? Will you give your body away in exchange for "love"?
Or...Will you discover the gift and value of your sexuality? Will you seek to understand why God tells us to only have sex in marriage? Will you allow His ways to protect your heart and body?
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Whose voice will you follow?
What is your compass for making decisions?
Let's look at sex.
God tells us to wait until marriage.
Satan lures us to indulge, to gratify yourself--with someone... or with porn.
What will each of these voices lead to in your life?
In considering the topic of homosexuality, we must come to terms with the foundational question: Is it a choice, or is it inherent? Let’s look at both.
Sexual purity provides a powerful protection from unhealthy, damaging, and abusive dating relationships. However, as fantastic a safeguard purity is for protecting our hearts and bodies from the effects of unhealthy romance, every relationship we have, other than marital, is designed to be non-sexual. So what value does purity hold in our acquaintances, friendships, work relationships, etc.?
Pleasure. Good pleasure. What comes to your mind as you think of “good pleasure?” Is good pleasure something to avoid, or temper? Or is it something that you seek—on your quest to find fulfillment? Let us look at what God say about good pleasure so that we have a reference point for experiencing pleasure in our lives.
Love is the foundation and standard for everything. This is why the enemy so attacks love. He despises it. He’s afraid of it. The enemy of our soul will do anything he can to keep us from true love.
This is one reason why sexual purity is so important. Purity protects our love. It fosters and develops it. Impurity, on the other hand, hinders relationship. It actually sullies them and gives people a clouded picture of understanding God’s love for them and one another. Sex outside of marriage gives people to taste of intimacy it cannot fulfill. It offers a promise it cannot deliver.
The irony is that most of humanity has bought into the lie that if you’re not having sex you’re missing out, but there is no logical or objective basis for believing this. Why don’t we make decisions about sexuality the same way we make most of our other decisions—based on how it effects our life?
I have learned that the primary battle for purity is all in the mind. What will we each put before our mind and our eyes? What mental pictures, images, and thoughts will we mull over?
How do love and sexual purity connect? God’s love, true love—described in 1 Corinthians 13—is really the only thing that will override a person’s desire to have sex. It is vital to understand that it is only through God’s powerful love that it is possible to successfully commit to purity. Roger explains this brilliantly in our book as he gives very practical examples about how he moved from sexual bondage to a lifestyle of purity. And, purity, as we will see, teaches us how to love.