In considering the topic of homosexuality, we must come to terms with the foundational question: Is it a choice, or is it inherent? Let’s look at both.
I remember a conversation I had with a young woman who told me that after multiple broken relationships that she could no longer trust men. She believed all men were unfaithful, and she was done with them. Clouded by her pain, she said that she was going to get a girlfriend. This was a free-will choice.
On the other hand, I used to work with a gay man who told me that, from as young as he could remember, he always felt “different.” That instead of identifying with men, he identified with women, and was attracted to men. It was like the identification/attraction wires had gotten crossed inside him. Unlike the previous example, my colleague shared that he did not feel like he chose homosexuality. He felt like it was who he was.
So what’s the truth? I will share what God has shown me that will hopefully bring freedom to those who struggle with same-sex attraction. The first step is releasing God’s heart of love to anyone who is wrestling with their sexual identity. This is key. Love is the foundation. And as we see in Scripture, love rejoices in the truth.[1] So we must seek God for His truth. What does He say about homosexuality? In both the Old and New Testaments, God calls it sin.[2]
Here the conflict arises. How can God call homosexuality wrong—an abomination even—if people are born that way? I’ve heard more than one person involved in a same-sex relationship say, “I can’t help it. It’s who I am… and if God made me this way, it can’t be sin.”
So let’s be clear. There are many things that are not God’s will. Some children are born addicted to drugs. This is not God’s will, nor is it their fault. However, we still do not advocate that the child continue to be a drug addict for the rest of their life.
In relation to drugs, it is easy to see the direct link between an addicted mother and child. The correlation with one’s sexual identity is typically not that easy to trace. However, just like physical traits are passed on in a person’s generational line, woundings can also be passed on from generation to generation if they are not resolved, forgiven, and healed.
How, specifically, can homosexuality be “passed on?” My understanding is that when a person has been physically or sexually abused, or berated, controlled, and emotionally demoralized—and the abuse is hidden and stays unresolved—the enemy has an open door. He then tempts the one who’s been violated to internalize anger, fear, hatred, and unforgiveness against their abuser.
Many people who have experienced abuse, have been at this crux in the road. The distinction that seems to open the door to homosexuality, though, is when the person who’s been abused makes a vow of hatred against the abuser’s gender. This vow appears to usher in a spirit of gender confusion and perversion. This is actually a demonic spirit that needs to be renounced and broken off.
Ironically, the initial person violated—the one who cursed their abuser's gender—may not ever have an issue with homosexuality. The gender confusion and distortion can pop up in that person’s family line generations later. [3]
But regardless of how a person became a homosexual, God has provided a way of escape! Jesus’ blood has provided freedom from every sin, and deliverance from every stronghold.
Practically, what are the steps to receiving this freedom?
1. Ask God to pour His love and truth into you.
2. Acknowledge that homosexuality is not God’s will, and it is sin.
3. Repent for believing and partnering with the lie.
4. Forgive anyone who’s wounded you (and release forgiveness into your family line).
5. Break any ungodly soul ties that God shows you you’ve had, and specifically break off all ungodly sexual relationships you’ve had.[4]
6. Renounce the stronghold of the gender confusion/perversion from your generational lines, and in your life, and command the demonic spirit to leave by the power of the blood of Jesus.[5]
7. Ask the Holy Spirit to restore your identity, and overflow you with His love.
Then seek Him until you believe that:
· He loves you
· His grace brought you from death to life
· He raised you up
· you are seated in heavenly places with Him
“But God, who is rich in mercy, because of His great love with which He loved us, even when we were dead in trespasses, made us alive together with Christ (by grace you have been saved), and raised us up together, and made us sit together in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus.” Ephesians 2:4-6
~ My prayer is that you receive His rich mercy, and live with Him all the days of your life—in victory.
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[1] 1 Corinthians 13:6
[2] Leviticus 18:22; Romans 1:26-27; 1Corinthians 6:9-11; Jude 1:7
[3] Exodus 34:6-7; Numbers 14:18
[4] Prayer is in Ch. 8 of Purity by Design
[5] More info at: http://www.bible-knowledge.com/prayer-generational-curse/